Courage is leaning in

This past month I had a chance to revisit my acting days…

I was quickly reminded of the anxiety of the audition process; the nail-biting experience of call backs, the pressure of being in front of the camera, and getting the shot right. What I wasn’t expecting was sinking feeling of self-doubt, and the concern for what other’s may think when it hit the airwaves.

The negative self-talk was overwhelming, but a good reminder of what my clients must go through when I am coaching them: to embrace their fear and step out.

If you want to get comfortable with being uncomfortable, check out our blog below. Also, we’ve shared a great blog from Calm & Courageous that helps us understand more about the weight of negative thoughts and choosing to let go.

Courage is leaning in and accepting life’s challenges head on. Courage is letting go of what other people may think. So here we go, a 30 second commercial spot dedicated to each and every one of you who is living bravely, owning the moment, whatever it happens to be.

daveGrowing your business and juggling the countless demands on your time and energy? The EDGE3 Team can help. David Graham works with entrepreneurs to help them find that perfect balance.

 

Giving Yourself the Space to Grow

We love nature. I mean LOVE nature. Have you heard that already? Well, it’s because it’s true! Whether it’s a walking meeting around the block, a park bench coaching session, a hike while brainstorming, or an island retreat in Muskoka, we LOVE trying to activate an element of the outdoors.

That’s why we’re always so excited to hit Muskoka each year for a series of Fall retreats, to spend time transforming in such a beautiful space, during such a transformational time of year.

It feels like ‘the ultimate’ in inspired places for us to work with others, and it’s fair to say that our guests feel the same. It may sound cliché, but the reality is that people found themselves moved to action from the cues nature gave them. Here’s some examples:

  • Setting intentions around a large compass to articulate the direction of the day
  • Letting go of our obstacles at the evening fire
  • Cleansing plunges into the lake
  • Listening to the winds of change, and what they may be whispering
  • Grounding one’s self like the surrounding trees
  • Meditative walk barefoot over the various terrains on the island
  • Enjoying a sunset, and visualizing what the next day will bring

While we’d love EVERYONE to join us in nature for an event or retreat in future, there are always ways to achieve this in everyday life. We just have to be intentional about it. Elemental and sensory touchpoints lifts people and enhances experiences, so carving out time to get into nature is a sound (AND FUN!) investment.

Setting the stage for change is important. Whether it’s a small shift in thinking, or majorly impactful decision making, an office doesn’t always lend itself to the level of thinking, feeling, openness, etc., that one needs… or deserves!

So ask yourself,

“If I’m inspired to create space inside myself to grow, how can the space around me be more inspiring to support that growth?”

We’d love for everyone to experience first-hand what we’re talking about. (Or call us and we’ll set-up an EDGE3 date!) But in the meantime, look for opportunities to get into the spaces that inspire you to think, feel, share, develop – WHATEVER! – the way YOU ultimately need to.

Devon Domanski plans dynamic client workshops, team building and appreciation-themed events. She feeds her curiousities with writing, food dreaming, and adventures in all things beautiful.

 

JOURNAL FOR SUCCESS: YOUR “HOW TO” GUIDE

Through coaching, I’ve noticed that the most successful individuals are those who are highly intentional about the future they want to create for themselves. We can all do it; sometimes we just need a little help visualizing our path, charting our course, and navigating the journey.

Typically, when we meet with new clients, we provide journals and some thought provokers to help encourage the first step in the self-discovery process. In our EDGE3 blogs, I’ve talked about the journaling I do, and not only does it help me get my thoughts out and reflect on things, I also refer back to it for a variety of reasons – inspiration, goal setting, clarity, a shift in perspective – and that’s a helpful tool (a map of my thoughts, if you will).

Whether it’s moving up the corporate ladder, starting a new business, achieving a physical goal, or hitting a life milestone… there’s only one person that can define your success… YOU!

So, how do you get started using a journal as a support tool for your success? Take a break from your “To Do” list and focus on the “What I’ve Done” list! It’s time to examine your successes to date, and build on the momentum.

Here are some thought provokers to start your journey:

STEP 1: DEFINING SUCCESS
• What’s my version of success?
• Who are my heroes & role models?
• What are the traits that I admire in the people I respect the most?

STEP 2: LOGGING YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENTS
• What personal traits make me proud?
• What was my proudest moment?
• What have my big achievements been, to-date?

STEP 3: RECOGNIZING THE PATTERNS
• What skills have contributed to my success?
• Where have I been most successful?

STEP 4: DREAM BIG!
• If failing weren’t a possibility, what would I do?
• Where do I want to be in 6 months? 1 year? 5 years?

STEP 5: LETTING GO
• What’s holding me back?
• What do I need to let go of to move forward?

STEP 6: START NOW
• What is one small step that I can take today?

Committing time daily to check in with yourself, and record your thoughts will help finely tune your focus toward the goals you set for yourself.

Need a hand with the process? We have a complimentary EDGE3 journal and a ½ hour coaching session for the first 10 people who contact us.

Happy Journaling!

daveDavid Graham works with leaders to build high-performing super-focused teams. A book club hosted by Dave enables teams to learn new business strategies, develop powerful action plans and to understand each other on a deeper level. 

 

BOOK CLUB: “DEEP WORK”

We live in a highly distracted world. With social media, email, and text messages constantly demanding our attention, most of us spend 60% of our work week engaged in electronic communication and searching the internet.  The author of “Deep Work,” Cal Newport defines this as Shallow Work; tasks that don’t challenge us intellectually that we can perform even while we are distracted. This work is easy replicated and doesn’t really require us to challenge our full intellectual potential or what we are trained to do.

Deep Work on the other hand is defined as, “Professional activities performed in a state of distraction-free concentration that push your cognitive capabilities to the limit. These efforts create new value, improve your skill and are hard to replicate.”

What are the tasks that you consider to be deep work and what would be the value if you could do more of it?

Here’s a look at Cal Newport’s 4 basic rules that lead to deeper more meaningful work:

  1. Work Deeply
    • Determine how many deep hours of work you need and then put it in your calendar
    • Find the ideal location that you use only for depth
    • Create a ritual for yourself to support deep work
    • Be lazy – down time is equally important to deep work, so schedule the time to recharge and renew, too
  2. Embrace Boredom
    • When we get bored, we typically flee the work and give in to distractions. Determine the amount of time that you will commit to deep work and challenge yourself to stick with it
    • Working deeply requires commitment and training so start with a smaller amount of time to start
    • To give yourself a fighting chance, eliminate pop-ups and notifications and put your phone on silent mode
  3. Quit Social Media
    • Understand that social media is designed to be addictive and we get hooked on that dopamine rush when we get an email, a like or a retweet
    • Break it down…identify the benefits of each social media outlet, consider if it has a positive impact, a negative impact or little impact and schedule your time accordingly
    • Be mindful. If you are using it for entertainment or as a distraction – set a time limit
  4. Drain the Shallows
    • We need to respond to our clients in a timely fashion, but if we don’t limit our email time it can occupy our entire day. Schedule time for email and determine the importance of the response time
    • Consider using a sender filter or auto-reply email. This could either set the expectation that you may not respond right away or you can share timelines of when the sender can expect a response to emails
    • Rather than going back and forth, send one longer email that outlines all of the details. It may be more work up front, but it will save you time in the long run
    • Don’t respond to unimportant emails

Deep Work is rare, and it’s becoming even more valuable in today’s economy; those of us who can shut off the distractions and commit to deep work, have a huge competitive advantage.

Need some coaching on how to best structure your work day, give the EDGE3 Team a call.

daveDavid Graham works with leaders to build high-performing super-focused teams. A book club hosted by Dave enables teams to learn new business strategies, develop powerful action plans and to understand each other on a deeper level. 

 

LEADERS, EMBRACE YOUR VULNERABILTY

In walked my newest client, a self-assured executive with an air of confidence that suggested that the was not easily rattled. Clearly this is a no BS, get it done kind of guy.

After exchanging a few pleasantries, we got right to the point. “What are some of the challenges that you’re facing right now?” He gave me a stock answer, but I noticed a subtle emotional shift behind the veil of confidence, so I dug a bit deeper. “What’s emotional about that for you?”

His eyes welled up and he had to turn away to avoid the flood gates from completely opening up. I realised in that moment that in his position perhaps he didn’t have someone in his life that he could share his deepest challenges with; certainly not his boss, his team, and maybe even his wife. He had worked hard to create this confident, “never let them see you sweat” exterior – the hallmark of a senior leader and provider.

To him, the emotion probably felt like weakness, but what I saw in that moment was not weakness, but real strength. A man whose character was defined by being there for those that mattered most to him. A man who desperately wanted to do the right thing.

With each question, we were able to draw out his thoughts, uncover his concerns and face his fears head on. By having a short break away from his desk, he was able to fully process his struggles and life challenges so that he could more effectively navigate the path ahead.

As a coach, I’ve learned that the most valuable thing that I can do is to be there in the moment, to meet my client exactly where they are and to hold space for them without judgment or advice.

So, do I require tears from my clients for a good coaching session?

No, but I consider it an honour when someone is comfortable enough to go to a place of truth and discovery; a place that most leaders can’t go in the boardroom. Ultimately, my hope is that the coaching process leads my clients to more confident decisions, greater authenticity and stronger, richer relationships.

What are the burning questions that you need to explore?
What would the value be in bringing more vulnerability to your work?
What fears are holding you back from having a bigger impact?

daveDavid Graham works with good leaders who want to become spectacular leaders. He also works with leaders to build high performing, super-focused teams.